Si Dawson - Latest Comments

Re: Anything You Ever Wanted, Get It From Yourself

Si Dawson — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 11:03:05 -0000

Ahh, thanks so much Nell!

I'll see what I can do about inspiring.. mostly I just write whatever's in my head :)

Re: Anything You Ever Wanted, Get It From Yourself

NELL LAM — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 08:38:13 -0000

omg!!! this is so true.. sometimes, reading your blog gives me the clarity and i truly appreciate your honesty and not afraid to share.. geez.. keep inspiring..
hope 2012 brings more awesome discoveries and inspires you throughout..
keep smiling n stay safe!
^*^

Re: How To Never Feel Rejected Again

Si Dawson — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 15:43:04 -0000

As long as it's helpful, that's great.

Re: How To Never Feel Rejected Again

Benjamin Disciple — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 09:46:30 -0000

great, l think l agree totally.

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

Si Dawson — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 06:48:37 -0000

Thank you. It really was.

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

teepee — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 06:44:57 -0000

Nice.

Re: Please Board, Mr Sexy Pants

Holly Jahangiri — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 08:30:32 -0000

Sounds like a great problem for a law school exam.

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

Si Dawson — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 17:00:26 -0000

oh yeah. We have flying cars and everything!

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

Si Dawson — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 17:00:12 -0000

*smile* it all sounds utterly delightful.

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

eternalvoyageur — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 13:04:19 -0000

You're in the future! It's still 2011 around here.

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

lilyofoz — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 09:21:36 -0000

Totally worth it! I did something similar, except in my mind. No parties this year, no noise and distraction. Just a trip through my mind of all the beautiful places & people I've found this year, or who have found me. May 2012 be a valley of lights to light your sky. :)

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

Si Dawson — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 09:14:43 -0000

Aww.. you too Cristina! (I know you will)

Re: Nice Night For a Walk

Cristina Milos — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 09:12:17 -0000

Have a wonderful beautiful 2012!

Re: How To Never Feel Rejected Again

Si Dawson — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 13:40:50 -0000

The secret is to get a white dog.

Re: How To Never Feel Rejected Again

Susan Chasteen — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 08:23:16 -0000

I beg to differ..my dog tries to control me... Grrr...

Re: Please Board, Mr Sexy Pants

teepee — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 06:44:04 -0000

So, what you're saying is that Chch is no more at risk of a force majeure than any other city in the world. You say this despite the occurrance of a crippling earthquake in Sept 2010 which fortuitously saw no loss of life and then the Feb 2011 earthquake that sadly, saw >180 lives lost. What was the probability of that event?

If you have a magical prediction tool that will alert residents to the impending perils of loss never before experienced, please, bring it on.

Re: Please Board, Mr Sexy Pants

teepee — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 05:40:39 -0000

100K is no use to a dead person nor will it be claimable by a person who is unable to verify that their beneficiary is on the plane in question.

Moreover, it's likely that the ticket in question will be tossed around in the chaos. To whom does that ticket belong?

Perhaps you have a fancy algorithm that suggests otherwise, but right now, as a frequent flyer, I prefer to avoid flights involving Chrischurch. I also prefer to avoid airlines that are lax on security.

24K people who have left the city since the first quake appear to share my fear/paranoia.

Re: Please Board, Mr Sexy Pants

Si Dawson — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 05:13:16 -0000

You make choices based on the possibility of events as statistically likely as the plane you just boarded flying into a hole in the ground opened by an earthquake that occurred right after boarding?

Hang on, what am I saying? It's probably the exact same odds as winning $100k on scratchies!

Damn! Gotta get me to a lotto outlet.

Re: Please Board, Mr Sexy Pants

teepee — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 04:28:08 -0000

I see the superficial fun in this but I also see the big picture down side.

Imagine Ms Pimpin' Bitch and Mr Sexy Pants have boarded their plane in Christchurch which is bound for Wellington. Just as their aircraft is taxiiing down the runway an earthquake of magnitude 6.2 strikes Christchurch, epicentre is 5km from the airport and at a depth of 5km.

The airport is destroyed and the plane is swallowed up by the gaping gorges in the runway. Nobody on board survives. Who is USAR searching for? How will Ms Pimpin' Bitch's friends and family know she is on the ill-fated aircraft unless she has revealed her pseudonym to them earlier?

What is the expense of iteratively comparing DNA for a match? What is the cost to loved ones who are missing a member of their team but neither they nor the airline are able to affirm that the team member was onboard the ill-fated flight?

Imagine if everyone onboard the aircraft that collided with the Twin Towers had used pseudonyms. Three words, extreme, chaos, and despair.

I am left wondering whether Jetstar undertook any ID checks as they are required to do.

In short, do your friends and family a favour and travel under your own name (unless you have good reason not to and have informed all potentially affected parties of your pseudonym). Also, fly with an airline that takes security seriously.

Re: The Subtlety of Posture

Si Dawson — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 17:47:38 -0000

*laugh* no. Have done a few crazy things like that, but never had a good enough photographer around at the time. Also, I've never worn a goatee. NEVER! :)

Re: The Subtlety of Posture

llearch n'n'daCorna — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 13:04:50 -0000

That's not you upside down shaking hands, there, is it? It looks an awful lot like you...

Re: How to Clear a Ton of Crap Fast

Si Dawson — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 15:15:20 -0000

Sure. This is going to sound trite (& possibly a little condescending), but it's really not. In fact, it's the subject of my next post, so you're getting a little taste of the future here.

The real issue isn't whether you're with this guy or not. The real issue is how you feel, regardless of whether you're with this guy or not.

Put it this way:
* If it's the right thing to end up with this guy, but everything's horrible & painful, that's gonna be a problem, right?
* If it's the right thing not to end up with him, but you're struggling with it & it's painful, that's gonna hurt too, right?

So, the real issue is the pain, not actually whether you end up with him or not. If you're feeling great, then it'll all work out for the best.

Now, how to deal with that. Well, this blog is full of ideas for clearing that sort of thing out (eg, mind maps!), but the very simplest way is just to choose to love every single aspect of the situation.

Choose to love it, and while you do, consciously release any feelings of tension in your body, any angry/resisting thoughts, any emotions that arise (good or bad).

Here's what I suggest:

Love:
* not having met him yet
* every aspect of the emotional rollercoaster
* not being with him, even though you think you should be
* the fear of causing pain to others in your life
* not having the strength to deal with it (do this lots)
* not being happy coz nothing is happening

Go through those, and keep going through until you feel both peaceful & loving about them all. Then do a mindmap on the situation, see what else turns up.

The trick is: when you're totally loving? You're in your highest possible state. From there, everything works out for the best. Plus, as a bonus, you feel great. In truth? Everything else is just details.

Re: How to Clear a Ton of Crap Fast

phoenixx1029 — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 09:31:49 -0000

Wondering if you have any advice for me..I have fallen in love with someone that I feel in my heart is my soulmate, but I haven't even physically met him yet, he lives a distance away. I feel a past connection very strongly & believe he does too. The emotional roller coaster is becoming very painful for me, if I want to be w/ this person my decision would cause pain to others in my life, and I just don't know if i have the strength. All I know is something needs to happen one way or another.

Re: Why it seems the crap is never ending

Si Dawson — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 04:40:07 -0000

That's lust in the sense of physical desire. In the above context the term is used rather more broadly. In the bible it was called "coveting" (wife, neighbour's ass etc), but yes, in general it's a subtle point.

Re: Why it seems the crap is never ending

Mary Bar — Sun, 30 Oct 2011 04:25:53 -0000

I dont see lust as a bad thing (unless it's with someone who is already taken)