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Re: How To Be Confident

Si Dawson — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 18:37:25 -0000

Another thing to consider is that it is possible to get all the precision you desire without using any of the words above. Scientists do this all the time. Plus mentally it'll put you in a significantly better space.

Re: How To Be Confident

llearch n'n'daCorna — Sat, 05 Sep 2009 18:14:16 -0000

I was thinking about this. It boils down to something along the lines of, I'm being more precisely imprecise - if that makes sense.

Rather than saying "it will happen" or "it will not happen", I'm giving what I consider to be an accurate prediction of what I expect to happen. Either it will happen or it won't, but at the time I speak, I'm speaking in statistically probable values; there's a 75% chance it will happen, or there's a 95% chance it won't happen (obviously, these are not both the same chance; unless the former is "if person a does x" and the latter "if person a fails to do x in a timely manner") - either way, it's specific.

And I need to be aware of the fact that other people aren't thinking statistically, and adjust my usage appropriately; either specify that, or, likely (hah!) more usefully, change my verb choice to something more confident...

Re: How To Be Confident

llearch n'n'daCorna — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 17:20:38 -0000

Isn't it, though?

Re: How To Be Confident

Si Dawson — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 17:30:42 -0000

It's an interesting point that you deliberately use imprecise language in order to be more accurate.

Re: How To Be Confident

llearch n'n'daCorna — Sun, 30 Aug 2009 16:54:21 -0000

That's an interesting list.

I use an awful lot of those sorts of phrases, because, well, they describe precisely what I mean. "probably going to be that way" because, on balance of likelyhoods, it probably will be that way. "I'll figure it out" because I will. I honestly expect to figure it out, without any problems at all. "I guess", "I need to", because I do guess, and I do need to.

This is, I suspect (ooo, another one) one of the differences in the way I think to the way everyone else thinks. Or something similar.

I'll think on it. There is a solution there somewhere...

Re: How To Be Confident

Si Dawson — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 22:07:52 -0000

Yawning is a great sign. Means that your energy is clearing. All good stuff.

Re: How To Be Confident

lolamy — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 21:31:03 -0000

Thank you for these great ideas! I've tapped on 'I dunno' so far, and did a lot of yawning. :)

Re: How To Be Confident

Si Dawson — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 18:33:22 -0000

*smile* well, you're the one who inspired me down this path in the first place.. what goes around comes around.. :)

Re: How To Be Confident

Jeannette — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 12:08:52 -0000

Si, you are SO inspiring!! Thanks for this!!